It can be a big decision deciding whether to have any children or not and then deciding how many to have. Some people just let nature decide and have as many as come along. However, most people feel that they do not want endless amounts of children but want to limit it. However deciding whether to have just one child, two, three, four or more can be difficult. It is worth thinking about a number of different factors while deciding how many to have so that you can make a rational decision.
The cost of children is well-known and should be a factor that you take into consideration. Although some people will say that they really like having children and they will have them regardless of the cost, it is worth considering the effects of having lots of children and not a lot of money. The more children you have; the more you will have to pay out for food and clothing for them. These are just their basic needs and you will also want to buy them toys and books. Although some of these can be shared it is still dearer to provide them for more children especially when it comes to buying things for their birthday and other celebrations. You will also need to consider the costs of having to live in a larger home, needing a larger car, more beds, costs of entry fees being higher and things like this. It can get even more important when they get older and you would like to help them out with the costs of university, their first car or a deposit on a home as doing this for lots of children may just not be possible.
You need to decide whether you would rather have lots of children but have less money to go around and so not be able to buy them so many things or a few children that you can buy more things.
It is really important to think about how you, as a parent, will be able to equally divide your time among your children. The more children you have the less time you will be able to give to each child. This means that you may find that if you have a very large amount of children you may not be able to give them all of the time that they need and this could lead to some feeling unloved or left out. Obviously the time that you give them will also depend on how much available time you have which will depend on whether you have a job or do volunteer work, what other things you do in a day as well as child care and how many carers there are for the children. If you have lots of family members to help you out then this could help to spread the load and mean that you will have lots more time between you to give children the attention that they need.
There are some people who just love having babies and children around them and therefore want to have a large family. Therefore without having family around them they can feel less happy. Therefore they want to keep having children to keep them happy. However, it is worth making sure that this is fair on the children and others around you and that they are also maintaining their happiness. Also think about whether the fact that you have to spend more money if you have more children will reduce your happiness and outweigh the gain form having a child. It does seem rather scientific and applying science to emotion is very difficult but it is worth trying to work it out.
It is worth also thinking about how practical it will be to have lots of children compared to just a few. Trying to keep on top of looking after lots of children of different ages can be tricky. Thinking about who is doing what on each day, getting them to school, college or playgroup, after school clubs can be pretty difficult especially if one or both parents are working as well. You also have to cook for lots more people every meal and juggle a lot of different bath times and bedtimes. Then if you want to visit other people they may not have room in their house to have you all over at once. With more of you there is also more chance of one or more children disappearing or getting lost.
With population growing fast and the amount of space and resources running out, some people feel that having too many children is an unnecessary environmental cost. Whether you agree that having children will have a significant impact is very much a personal thing and you may feel that it will not make enough of an impact to be relevant. However, if you get feelings of guilt about it then it could have an impact on your happiness.
On the flip side, having just one child could have a detrimental effect on the child. Some children who grow up without siblings can be spoilt as they are used to being the centre of attention. However, this will depend on the child and you can always make sure they mix with other children a lot so get used to socialising with their peers. Having no sibling to play with can mean that they have a very different childhood as they play with adults a lot and this could be seen as a good or a bad thing.
It may be that you have never really thought before about what an impact the amount of children you have may have on you and the children. It is good to have a think about this as you may find that your decision can have a huge impact on your future in the sense that it could affect your time, disposable income, emotions and the environment. It could also have an impact on the children as well. It is a decision that should take into consideration your current situation as well as how it may shape the future and how it will affect you, your family and your children.